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Serenity Carr, Assistant Editor
Using 'Me' and 'I'
Wednesday February 13th 2019
Question
Which is correct? "A guy came up to my friends and I." or "A guy came up to me and my friends." — Nandika, United Kingdom
Answer

There are two things to remember when choosing a pronoun in sentences like this one.

First, since "my friends and X"/"X and my friends" is the object of the preposition to the correct pronoun to use is me because me is the object pronoun. (I is a subject pronoun and should be used for the subject of a verb.)

Second, when talking about yourself and another person or other people, it is considered polite to name the other person or people first.

So the best sentence is "A guy came up to my friends and me."

However, it is common in informal speech to say "me and X" instead, so "A guy came up to me and my friends" is fine to say in a casual conversation.

 

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